Achieving complete Sexual Fulfillment
:THE FEMALE SEX ORGANS
A variation of this movement requires skill and runs the risk of completely separating the couple and forcing a clumsy and frustrating moment to pass while connection is re-established. However, the sensation can be one of "teasing" for the woman and quite sensual for the man. One part of the sexual relationship that usually only lasts for a moment is intromission, when the erect member pushes through the muscular ring and enters the vaginal orgasm tube. Most people find the sensation of intromission quite pleasant. If they are skillful enough and physically and emotionally in tune, this sensation can be repeated over and over at some point during the sexual relationship if the husband completely withdraws until only the very tip of the glans is probing the vaginal opening. He then descends slightly so that the entrance is made about halfway before almost completely withdrawing again. This "teasing" effect has brought women closer to orgasm because it forces them to realize, as they instinctively arch upward to reclaim the "lost" phallus, that they are extremely desirous of having the member inside of them. With this realization any remaining inhibitions vanish.
As sexual positions may change during coitus, so should the various strokes and rhythms change. They will naturally change in speed as orgasm approaches. They can change in . depth to suit each party. They can also change in direction I as we have already noted. Sometimes they may change on a whim, for the sake of variety in the searching out of new " and different sensations. There may also be a purpose for the change. For example, if the vagina is short and the husband is making too vigorous contact with the cervix, the wife may complain of pain. Therefore, shorter strokes are called I for. If the husband is approaching climax too quickly, he will stop his in-and-out movements for a moment or so. Each partner must be receptive to the other, cooperating fully, striving to meet the other in the depth, intensity and direction of the coital movements. This creates the perfect feeling of physical harmony that is so much a part of the successful sexual act. Anything less creates a sense of disunity or a feeling of raggedness that greatly detracts from the feeling of oneness the sexual act is intended to inspire.
Most of the movements of the modern dance have a sexual counterpart in the love act. Like the dance, the sexual act requires unity of mood, position, setting, and movement. A sensation, both psychological and physical, of complete accord is the emotional tone that best leads to complete sexual fulfillment. All differences, tension, or uneven tempers that were present before the sexual act should be washed away before the orgasm sets in. It is this very feeling of one- ness, so difficult to put into words, that has caused man from the beginning of time to combine his mystical, religious, and sexual rites.
The wife can help considerably in creating voluptuous sensations for both herself and her husband by using her vaginal muscles dexterously. To begin with, passion tends to contract the vagina. Blood rushes to the genital region in the woman, just as it does in men, when sexual excitement occurs. Women often mention that they feel a vaginal tremble during moments of high excitement in foreplay. This is a shudder caused by the nerves in the wall of the vagina and the ripple of the musculature. By tightening and relaxing the vagina on the male organ in rapid succession, the woman creates yet another sensation adding to the friction of sliding the glans in and out, or the rotary back-and-forth movement. In addition to giving her husband many extra thrills, the wife is setting up the pattern that will lead to "total" or vaginal orgasm-something that many women who believe their sex life is complete have never experienced. While the vaginal canal is not as profusely supplied with nerve endings as is the clitoris, nerves are nevertheless present. But the excitement of them depends on contact between the lower vaginal walls and the corona of the male organ. This close contact is naturally enhanced by the tightening of the vagina. Many women have to be "taught" to have a vaginal orgasm. Good muscle tone and control of the vagina are the first steps in this teaching. We will have more to say about the different varieties of orgasms and climaxes a little later in this book.
It is difficult to dispute those who insist that the base of the phallic shaft should always contact the clitoris during sexual intercourse. We know that clitoral stimulation is the most important means of sexually exciting a woman to orgasm by physical means. However, in order for this clitoral stimulation to take place-at least in most positions-the husband must force himself upwards on the woman, which immediately precludes the popular variations of movement known as "riding low" or shifting to allow the penis to enter from a lower angle. These positions tend to force the organ to create pressure on the upper part of the vaginal canal and men especially find this sensation stimulating. Therefore, the notion that clitoral contact must be constant is limiting to positions and movements. Let us say that clitoral contact is important and should be a vital part of the sexual act, especially when the moments before orgasm have arrived, in order to bring about the woman's peak of excitement. But manual caresses by either husband or wife (or both) can substitute for contact by the phallic shaft when the acrobatic position or the inclination of one or the other is such that clitoral contact is impossible.
Most of all, the movements used by a couple should bring the greatest possible anal stimulation to them both and should create the feeling of utter, uninhibited togetherness, spiritually as well as physically, what is the precursor to complete sexual fulfillment.